Snap JudgementsPosted: December 13, 2012
In the near future, I will write about my Sterilization Celebration and my tubal ligation surgery. As it stands I’m still recovering (was getting surgery yesterday) and want to wait a little before writing that out.
Instead, I want to write about something that has come up in my conversations with several people in the last two weeks.
It takes me a while to figure people out. Sure there’s the rare person that I instantly feel a super great connection with or whom I immediately feel might be the devil. But really, I generally need to hang out with someone a few times, in a few different situations, to really be able to assess them.
I’m not sure if this is a good or a bad thing. If ultimately, it’s someone I wouldn’t want to spend time with, was the time I did spend wasted? Or was that time well spent because I gave it a try and made an informed decision based on their character? I must admit, taking the time to learn about people has taught me a lot about what I think about myself and about the world (my community and society I guess). So in that sense, I would say it’s time well spent.
Are people who can get a quick sense of people getting a full picture or are they just going on gut instinct?
I’d like to be able to really GET people more quickly. How does one increase their skill in this area?
How do you judge character? What traits or world-views are deal breakers when it come to people with whom you would spend your time?
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